Love YourselfIf girls can learn now to like themselves through that process, they’ll be unstoppable. Teal Swan is a personal transformation revolutionary. She was born with a range of extrasensory abilities and is a survivor of severe childhood abuse. Today she uses her gifts as well as her own harrowing life experience to teach others how to heal by discovering and owning their self-worth and self-love. It won't necessarily be easy, but Teal will guide you through the process with live examples. Guided steps to create a life where low self-esteem is replaced by knowing your self-worth.
Cleansing your mind can sometimes work in the form of letting go of clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc., that remind you of a certain time in your life that links to a negative vibration. Don't chase what's already happened; love yourself enough to know the best is yet to come. If it’s anything less than loving, encouraging and supportive, it’s time to make a change. You deserve to be spoken to in the same way you would speak to your best friend, sister, brother, daughter, or son. The next time you are feeling happy and on top of the world make a list of your best qualities and accomplishments. It may sound a little corny, but it can be a wonderful reminder when you are having a day that’s less than amazing.
It took years for me to get to that point, but I did it last year for my friends and my family. I didn't really do it for myself at first, but because I realized what my emotional condition was doing to my relationships. And I wanted to be a better sister and a better daughter, a better boss and a better friend. I understand how difficult it is to “just love yourself” in a society in which the media quite literally tells us that we don't have enough money to love ourselves. It tells you that you should get money to buy this so you can look like that and be perfect.
If a friend is in trouble our first instinct is rarely to tell them that they are fundamentally a shithead and a failure. If a friend complains that their partner isn’t very warm to them, we don’t tell them they’re getting what they deserve. We try to reassure them that they are essentially likeable and that it’s worth investigating what might be done. In friendship, we know instinctively how to deploy strategies of wisdom and consolation that we stubbornly refuse to apply to ourselves. Heather Lonczak holds a Ph.D. in Educational Psychology with a focus on Positive Youth Development. She has published numerous articles aimed at reducing health disparities and promoting positive psychosocial youth outcomes (e.g., academic achievement, cultural identity, mindfulness and belief in the future).
In the big picture, I believe it also provides an opportunity to focus on cooperation and collaboration rather than competition. I think that self-compassion cannot be learnt or taught. It has to come as a natural emotional change, which takes years of psychotherapy and gaining awareness in different contexts.
Ask yourself what it is that you really need rather than want or hope for. Try to consider your life and personal goals and decide what you need to achieve them. This goes for everyday habits and decisions, too. Learning how to be present and aware of your current feelings and thoughts is truly liberating. You can forget about the past and focus on the present.
Recognizing your bad habits and looking for ways to change those into positive habits is the first step to leading a more healthy, productive life. If you make a bad habit of practicing any of the things we mentioned or more, try slowly implementing changes. With this understanding, we can say that self-love is also about how we talk ourselves into moving from negative to positive in our feelings for ourselves. And from negative to positive in how we choose to experience life. At face value, it may feel like you have lost a lot during treatment.
However, even more challenging is what can happen when you don’t offer self-love. Your happiness is dependent on how you take care of yourself and self-love has been linked to increased resilience and capacity to see things from a new perspective. When you put yourself last or fail to love yourself, you will notice increased stress, anxiety and reactivity to the little things that you may have ignored beforehand. Things will feel more difficult, overwhelming and lead to you feeling depleted and overall, more unhappy.
You don’t have to believe in an organized religion to have a connection with something greater than yourself. It can be a power greater than you that is of your own psychology understanding. Self-care can be as simple as making yourself a favorite meal. As you do so, be mindful about how you are taking care of yourself in that moment.
Realize that they are nothing more or less than words. Give yourself credit for making positive changes. For example, "My presentation might not have been perfect, but my colleagues asked questions and remained engaged — which means that I accomplished my goal." Think about the parts of your life that work well.
Instructions are simple; the reader simply fills in the blank in a series of 20 statements. This exercise is a loving way for individuals to practice self-love and self-kindness that will benefit them throughout their lives. This exercise promotes self-love by having individuals write love letters to themselves that emphasize their most valued attributes. The first step is to identify the top eight qualities they love most about themselves. Think about someone who is confident… How do they act?
In this growth, says Lucas, may be the secret of true human well-being, as well as more of the requisite empathy and connectedness we so desperately need in today's world. Once he made this discovery, he started practicing Self Love on himself. It was difficult at first, but he continued to practice. And then began teaching and sharing with others.
I also don’t believe we can be genuinely compassionate if we are beating ourselves up because we’re not perfect. Before having my eyes opened to self-love, I would have never been able to remove those “perfect” implants but my mindset shifted and that’s all it takes. Self-love saved my life, improved my quality of life and is truly the secret to happiness. I learned this the hard way, but I learned it and the projection of my life from there on out has been blessed with happiness all because I started understanding self-love.
To trick yourself, think of how you would treat your best friend instead. We are usually better at loving others than loving ourselves. Make your favourite meal, create a playlist of songs that make your heart sing. When a negative thought arises, ask yourself, “what do I need right now? Write a list of the things you have accomplished, but shift your idea of what that means.